One of the flyers in which [link] has been used. We have created a set of 15 flyers all with different people on and covering an aray of sexual crimes. THey now sit proudly in GP waiting rooms, police stations and even a few at the A&E department
YourDAMOCLESFeatured By OwnerAug 8, 2012Hobbyist General Artist
BULLSHIT. I dress like a guy and never ever show my goddamn cleavage nor legs, never as in never and yet I get degrading comments from just minding my won fucking business or walking on the streets and I was even raped by someone that was supposed to be my friend. A big GO FUCK YOURSELVES to those that victim-blame, fuck I hate those monsters with avid vehemence!
I love that you keep making these. Thank you for speaking for those who've been harmed.
I feel immensely lucky that my experience with the police was good. Then again, my therapist helped me set it up, and the first cop I spoke to was a survivor herself. (She told me her story in a calm voice, after I had finished telling her and was curled up in a miserable little ball. As she left, she told my therapist that I'd be okay.) The second cop was another woman who said, "Asshole," a couple of times as I gave the report.
I didn't get any legal success, but they were definitely the difference between a miserable encounter and an empowering one.
urgh I have been accused of 'leading someone on' people don't realise how damaging that can be. You get the shame and humiliation of this happening to you, and then on top of that people just dismiss it as your fault. Which makes you think it is your fault, which causes a LOT of inner arguments, and usually makes you blame yourself for other incidents - vicious circle.
The law is so obsessed with saving people rom false accusations that if you report a rape it honestly feels as if you are the one on trial... As it's usually down to your word against theirs too they brng in character witnesses to vouch for who great and amazin your attacker is and how they could never hurt anyone, while at the same time picking appart your history to find any and all flaws. Not to mention how the general public sees it, a few months ago a survey in Scotland showed that most people (male and female) think that the majority f rape victims were at least partly responsible for what happened!
and prison inmates are just begging for butt love too I'm sure. That's terrible! Even if you are married you say no and it's No! It is a form of domestic abuse that even if it sounds silly try being the one in the situation your opinion changes really quickly. But yeah I had no idea it was like that.
I wish they would think about the child molestation and say that kind of crap. They were asking for it running around in their undies like that (unaware that it was inappropriate because kids don't think like that.) Yeah kids are asking for it just as much as grown men and women. Wow I'm getting mad just at the thought of this. Talk about a major injustice. Doesn't help that this kind of thing is appearing in more movies now than ever. It's beginning to be as though they are glorifying it.
Well originally child abuse was seen as in part the childs fault, it wasn't until part of the feminist movement when they pointed out that a child being abused sexually should be seen the same way as rape that it was taken seriously. And even now some people use this fact as an aguement as to why child sexual abuse "isn't that big of a deal" as "the child doesn;t know what's going on anyway" these people clame that a person abused as a child is only effected by it after society tells the that it was wrong!
(a book on that actually came out last year called "the trauma myth" which resulted in my written many angry letters lol)
there are places where a woman has to prove she said no. how is she going to do that? let the rapist confess?? I think it's all bull, rapists should be convicted easily without the victim getting more hurt.
i think it's a shame that this happens. after all isn't the adage "one is reponsible for one's own actions" i guess some people think it's okay to do the things they do when someone wants to wear something that looks nice. aren't people supposed to look nice? what's the excuse going to be if someone was wearing a baggy sweatshirt and sweatpants? sad that those that attack have to resort to excuses such as this.
*literally groans in disgust out loud* That is the most vile, ridiculous CRAP I have ever heard, that the woman "wanted it" or "led him on"... Do we really live in such a sexist society that a woman gets blamed for her own rape?!! BIGGEST.CROCK.OF.DOODOO.EVER!!!
A few months ago a study revieled that a significant number of people think that some rape victims are at least partially to blame for their attacks. The various reasons that respondents blamed women were the unsurprising — if she had been drinking, if she had worn something revealing, if she had engaged in some other kind of sexual contact with the rapist, etc. — but no less disturbing than they’ve always been.
It's scary, but these myths are there as they make people feel safe and enforce their belief in a just and fair world... That does not justify them of course, but it's part of the reason why they exist, and until they are countered and until the taboo/stigma surrounding rape is lessened these myths will remain
UGGHHH!! That's... that's so ignorant! Ignorant and just full of antipathy, who could WANT to be raped? And I speak as someone who's gone through it twice... NOBODY DOES!
I know. It's what teenagers do when they find out a peer has been raped: blame her, say she had it coming, act like it could never happen to them, but it can, and it does! Of course there's taboo surrounding rape, just like there is for homosexuality, because people surround "less than desirable" acts of sexuality with negativity that shames a person. Anything we culturally do not understand, especially in terms of sex, is stigmatized, especially for the person going through it. The fact that rape is not only in that area, but in the area of violence, a life-and-death struggle, that makes it even more upsetting, that we would overlook or scorn someone because of it. God... Somebody just needs to hurry up and heal this world. I'm growing weary with it...
Congratulations for getting this and many other flyers posted in various locations. If only you could get them posted around more locations like schools, councils and even shops. It is a very informative poster, you should be proud of your work ^^