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Alternatives to self-harm
Self-harm is when someone deliberately hurts or injures him or herself. This can take a number of forms including:
* taking overdoses of tablets or medicines
* punching oneself
* throwing their bodies against something
* pulling out hair or eyelashes
* scratching, picking or tearing at one's skin causing sores and scarring
* inhaling or sniffing harmful substances
Some people self-harm on a regular basis while others do it just once or a few times. For some people it is part of coping with a specific problem and they stop once the problem is resolved. Other people self-harm for years whenever certain kinds of pressures or feelings arise.
A few people who self-harm may go on to commit suicide - generally thesis not what they intend to do. In fact, self-harm can be seen as the 'opposite' of suicide as it is often a way of coping with life rather than of giving up.
There are many methods that are meant to help when the urge to SI overcomes you, some work, some don't. O
Social function of rape myths
I have written a few times about the myths surrounding the topic of rape, but I've never written about why these myths have survived for so long and the social functions that they serve. Rape myths allow people to feel safe by letting them believe that rape rarely happens, and that when it does, it is because the person secretly wanted it or that they were "asking for it". The myths enable us to maintain the belief that we live in a just world. They allow us to believe we can prevent future rapes. And in some cases they even maintain the Adam-and-Eve tradition of our culture, in which man s believed to be the innocent victim of the evil temptress women.
Myths provide a false security
When we are confronted with the story of a rape, the easiest way to maintain our feelings of safety and invulnerability and to believe that what we are hearing is indeed a work of fiction, not a true story. If we believe "many rape reports are false", then we significantly lower our perceived chance
Common thinking errors
common thinking errors caused by abuse/rape/trauma
* When you believe the you could have known what was going to happen before it was possible to know it.
* Believing that you overlooked certain "signs"; such as a thought, feeling, dream, intuition, etc.
* Sometimes people view prior "signs" as omens as it can give an illusion of control over the event
* Some people will subconsciously alter their memories of an event to include these "omens" as it can be less painful to blame oneself for missing these "signs" than to feel powerless.
2.Confusing the possibility that you could have prevented the event with the belief that you caused it.
* Often hindsight bias leads to the mistaken belief that you "could somehow have prevented" the event, and therefore you "actually caused it".
3. Failing to consider or accept this biological truth:
Getting Over It"Get over it"
You say it as though its a choice.
Like I choose to sing the blues everyday.
You speak as though I'm in control.
Why choose to feel insane?
You think it's all so easy?
Then why feel this way in the first place?
It's not as simple as just willing it all away.
The feelings embed themselves in your brain.
Those feelings turn into thoughts,
You never want to say.
The thoughts turn to actions,
To chase the feelings away.
Its a never ending cycle
Thats not so easy to break.
HauntedI gaze around this room. There's never less, never more. The orderly peeks in again, and I pretend to sleep. He makes sure I'm breathing still. These constant incursions would drive me crazy, if I wasn't there already. I can't blame them for checking. I don't want to be here. I don't want...to be. They took everything away from me; everything to cut or gouge or squeeze. All that's left is the pain; the twisting, the wrenching, the empty. That's all that's left of me. "A B C D E F G "
I don't see an end, but I remember how it started. How betrayal and naïveté would leave me here to die, without remorse, or the batting of an eye. I'm seventeen, and I was so far ahead. I exceeded every expectation, blew through hurdles in my wake. I had it all in front of me, a future bright for all to see. Though my daddy said I wasn't his; drew lines throughout my memory. A beautiful boy said he loved me. My knight, my heart, my everything. He promised me eternity. I trusted him with all
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